In last one year more than once I
have come across the realization that no matter how much I hold back from the
world, I would somehow form some kind of a relationship with people out there
which I wouldn’t want to let go off. I have also realized that those people
whom I want to stay by my side forever would eventually leave me and that
heartbreaks are just a chapter in my life. We meet some people, share a good time and
then part away from them having nothing much to remember but then there are some who leave their
footprints in our lives. Many a times we fail to receive the lessons some
people teach us before leaving because we are just too much occupied by the
grief of their absence.
I see some of my friends falling
in love every now and then and I have also seen them falling just too hard for
someone who leaves them unexpectedly when things are just great in their
relationship. I have not known their story but I have always liked to believe
that it happened for the good and the reason behind it need not be known. After
an unexpected break up, most of the times people live their life acting,
pretending, wearing masks and losing themselves in the process and a very few
revert back to who they were in the past.
People start to curse their ex
for leaving them when they loved them from the core of their heart, or so they
say. And I always wonder how they can hate the person whom they used to love so
much. And again I think that probably hating and cursing is also a part of love
and no matter how much they hate in the end they’re still in love and if not then
probably they never were. When I witness people thinking about what their ex
became after the break up; I think that I would remember my ex, if any, as the
beautiful person I witnessed while being in a relationship instead of someone
who he became after we ended as we should think of past only if it’s
remembrance gives us pleasure.
Whenever my friends come up to
me with their heartbreak story I don’t understand what to say as I haven’t
walked in their shoes but then I think they
just want me to listen to them. Letting out the feelings is the first
step to moving on, I guess. And whenever they ask what they should do, I come
up with the answer “You’ve got 2 options- either you move on or get used to the
pain and if you go with the former then make sure it should be a quick shower
instead of a bubble bath and if you go with the latter then I would ask you to consider
the 1st option. But anyway the choice is yours.” Even if I have been
never satisfied with the answer but it seems to work for them in a way and
sometimes starting over is exactly what a person needs.
People going through heartbreaks
usually find happiness as distant and as unattainable as space travel. Most of
them doubt that they would ever be fine again, but they’re not even sure if
they want to be. It’s possible to go on, no matter how impossible it seems, and
in time, grief lessens. Past can always be escaped by embracing something
better. And people who’ve once been in love usually find someone special again,
it’s in their nature.
I’m not sure if I completely
understand this love, relationship or heartbreak stuff but I think all of them together form something that we call LIFE. Life is what we make it and as far as love is concerned I would go with
the famous lines from The Walk to Remember, the book/movie which always has
always been close to my heart.
“Love is always kind and patient.
It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or
selfish. It does not take offence and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure
in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to
excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.”
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