I am probably saying this one last time: Bad things happen, life is unfair. People describe their experiences of suffering from anxiety that make it feel like a collective experience. Just that, they don’t stop a certain section of their life, they aren’t paralysed from shock, unable to comprehend their life. Their hearts race, my heart felt like it’d stop any moment, as if I was physically dying from the inside. Now I tend to not speak about it, all the place-time displacements, and actions based on made-up scenarios in my head. Sometimes I miss the multiple voices having a roundtable conference inside my head, afraid that I lost my ability to express, to write, when I killed them. I often wondered in the year gone by, was it my madness that brought me stories? I spent months in silence, looking for words that used to flow like blood through my veins. I did the only thing I could do then, in my search for words, I read.
What is the
point of reading so much?
I don’t read so much.
What will
you do by reading?
What kind of question is this?
You are
escaping.
No, I am not. If fiction does
anything, it makes reality more evident.
That’s what
you tell yourself.
That’s what I live.
They don’t
get it, they will never do till they form a relationship with stories. It is true
that stories sedate me when needed. It is also true that I might not have lived
the last few years had I not found parts of my life in stories. There’s no
explaining to anyone. I switch from literary fiction to fantasy, Indian
literature to world. I close my eyes and hear a book calling me. If I don’t, I
try harder to concentrate. There’s always a book calling when the time is
right. No, I cannot explain right timing. I can only say, sometimes trying to
read is painful, there’s no going beyond a few lines. Yet, in a while,
sometimes in years, it becomes effortless.
There were
other fears: the inability to grasp a story in one reading, the unstoppable
drive to prove an argument if formed inside my head, and it all led to one
thing, the absence of words in my system. There was nothing I wanted to say
after burning myself out by being my own sounding board. I remember such
details of my life, there’s no way that I cannot throw ideas at my brain and
not make it work. My mind palace is an empty room, blackboards covering the
wall. That’s where my scribbles go now. Fear of losing the 2am ideas has no
place. I exhaust myself anyway, brainstorming alone makes me slow, and no amount of patience seems enough. I burn out.
The
questions that were asked win and reign inside my head. What is the point of it
all? The questioners do not see the intellectual labour, I don’t think anyone
does. The amount of time an idea can stay inside one’s head. I no longer try to
shoo them away. I found answers to, why do authors make-up places in fantasy?
Why is there always a guardian figure in such stories? These questions first
appeared three years ago. I eluded them at the expense of thinking too much.
They kept coming back till I gave them a convincing answer. When I had a moral
crisis reading The Enchantress of Florence, I wanted to let it go, I didn’t
till I found out that calling it a shaggy dog tale helps my moral compass and
actually answers all the comments made about male gaze and misogyny in the
text. I cannot deny the presence of male gaze but I don’t agree with it being
misogynist either. Just look at the words, they are quite literally laughing at
us.
Many people
suggested many things to do. I asked them one question, why? The answer was,
You’re doing nothing anyway. That’s when I stop listening. Imagine doing
nothing for a moment, it will drive anyone crazy, make the reality of
meaninglessness bang the walls of one’s skull exponentially. How can anyone
assume that another person is doing nothing? There might not be an output to
showcase, yet to assume there’s no input? I stop listening, my hypocrisy
chuckles. I believe I listen to everyone, I don’t.
Why? It is
the only question that matters. I look back at things that people consider my
achievements.
My mom will tell you the anecdote of how I
scored a hundred in Math just to get TV back at home.
I’ll tell her, I loved TV, I don’t love like that anymore.
My friend
tells me not to quit pursuing research because she saw me at my best when I was
immersed in Rushdie.
I tell her, I loved plurality, I still do, I just don’t feel the need to
prove its existence anymore. It exists everywhere; to say otherwise is living
in denial.
They give
up, I sigh. Give me a purpose, I will thrive.
Don’t you
want to prove yourself?
To whom?
Don’t you
want to prove them wrong?
Who are they and why should I be proving them anything? Have I not
fought enough? Negative motivation doesn’t work for me. Anger, hatred, ego,
holding on to them tires me. I don’t want to be tired anymore.
How can you
not want freedom?
I have it, I don’t like it. It’s
a prison. To not belong, to understand you’re free – what do you think I have
been doing all this time? Freedom feels good as long as there’s a shore you can
return to. To hang out on a boat in the middle of the ocean, survive the storms
and demons, and stay afloat while running out of food and water, that’s not a
life I want.
There,
that’s a purpose.
It’s not enough. It says what I
don’t want, it doesn’t say what I do. It says I want to belong, it doesn’t say
where.
Can’t you
find out?
I can. It might take a while.
Time’s
running out.
It always is.
Does that
not bother you?
It does, sometimes.
Then?
You can’t expect for me to have a
conventional life now. If I aspire for that, I will never be able to do
anything apart from comparing my life to others. I am making peace with my
timeline. I am slow because I don't know what I want to do. I tried a few things,
figured out they don’t work for me. It’s like writing many drafts, knowing they
are not the story you want to tell but they need to get out of your head so
that a story can take shape.
Okay, they
say. I let it be. Talking exhausts me. Being excited gives me a headache. It’s
my body’s way of telling me that sadness remains at the base. And this is why I
read fiction, to understand that no matter how much we aspire to be happy, it
is sadness that’s home. Everything else is just a way to sedate ourselves, we
like to call it comfort. And, that’s okay, it has to be. This world, society isn't something you can survive without sedation, people and their choices begin to make more sense. Sadness as the basis of life isn’t an odd view
of living, it’s peaceful. You stop fighting; you start building on an
unshakable foundation.
You don’t
understand, but you want to tell me something, give me some advice. I know.
Don’t, I’ll not listen if you don’t see the importance of making peace with sadness. I
want to tell you that happiness is easier to live this way. I want to but not
enough. And words don’t show up for half-hearted efforts.
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