Joey-Phoebe-Ross-Monica-Chandler-Rachel!
Barney-Robin-Ted-Marshal-Lily!
Harry-Hermione-Ron!
And on and on and on. . .
Can a guy and a girl be friends?
My theory- A guy and a girl can be best friends as long as a confusing 'why' erupts in one's brain eventually finding it's way to the heart.
"When something amazing happens, he is the first one she wants to tell. He is not afraid to tell her when she is with a wrong guy. He is the first one she calls when things are going wrong. He is the first one there when she needs a shoulder to cry on. Her friends wonder why they're not together yet. He knows when things aren't right. He knows her PMS days and makes sure to annoy her the least then. He makes fun of the romantic or the mind boggling novels she reads but still respects her passion for reading. He is amazing in every single way and treats her better than any other guy will ever do. Every girl wants him but she has him."
"She knows everything about him. She calls him out on everything he does wrong. She helps him impress his crush and buy gifts for his girlfriend. She knows his favorite x-rated sites, she probably doesn't like it but still sticks by his side. She loves him unconditionally even though she has seen the worst part of him, she will do anything to make sure him happy. She knows how he feels when he speaks a word. She is by his side when he is vulnerable, which is quite rare. She believes in the person she knows him to be no matter who he thinks himself to be. She is someone he can be stupid and sarcastic with. When people see them together, they long for such a friendship."
A guy and a girl can be strongly attracted to each other when they are poles apart. There are maximum chances of both of them falling for each other when they are best friends forever. But there are chances of not being in love when both of them know each other in and out and are aware of the expectations and desires from life and their partners. They can love each other and still have different partners whom they equally love. There also may be times, when they don't realize how much they mean to each other till a third soul interferes.
I guess I am blabbering just to prove my point that a girl and a guy can be simply best friends loving each other but not falling for each other. Finding the love of your life in your best friend is an awesome feeling but the feeling is even better when he/she remains the same even after having a relationship with someone else. This proves the strength of friendship. Obviously there's a bit of insecurity every now and then but they get over it. And in case they fall in love with each other, the better of them prefers to be BFFs instead of starting a romantic relationship.
I do not know much about the topic but I believe in what I know. Their friendship starts even before they realize, they think they are just friends but in the end a bond is formed- a bond so strong that one never finds the right word to explain it. Naming such a friendship as love actually restricts the flexibility of the same.
Not many people would agree with what I say now and I wont ask them to, for may be my thoughts find another way someday. Brain and heart together place all the traps. ;-)
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